How people become independent is based on how they were brought up. It’s not a very big issue with kids not until they reach a certain age when they should stand up on their own.

I happened to talk to my grandmother earlier and we somehow discussed how some of my cousins were doing. She said several of them have become overly dependent on their parents and I agreed kasi actually ako GUILTY. Parang freeloader lang ang dating ko. Pero not too much kasi I know my limitations. Hindi naman ako abusadong anak because Im not raised that way. Besides I try naman not to be too dependent sa kanila. Im starting to stand on my own two feet na especially now na ggraduate na ako. Im actually looking for work now, Ma. Hehe.

I know a lot of people who still cling on their parent/s,brothers or sisters kahit malayong kamag-anak and I feel kind of upset kasi matanda na sila para maging super dependent nila sa mga taong feeling nila ay tutulong sa kanila. Parang halos lahat ng lumalapit financially dependent.. nako baka may tamaan… Pating! Pating! Hehe. My family is average kung titignan ung financial status namin pero these people think that we have a lot more… Honestly we would have more than what we have now if neither of my parents are being helpful. Masyado kasing mapagbigay. Bakit ba ganun?

Not that im against them helping everyone, it’s just that these people have been taking advantage of their kindness. We sometimes get into so much debt because my parents keep on giving their money to them. Ok lang sana. Ok lang. Pero ung appreciation nila wala e. Minsan lang hindi mabigyan, sila pa galit. Potek. Hindi naman obligasyon ng nanay at tatay ko o sinumang tao na bigyan kayo ng sustento. They do not have any right para magtampo, magalit o kung anu pa man. Hindi man lang nila naisip na hindi naman kami mayaman para humingi sila ng pera samin ng paulit-ulit. Mayor ba tatay ko? Donya ba nanay ko? Malamang hindi. Sana maisip nila na hindi madaling kitain ang pera ngayon. Dapat pag nabigyan sila hindi nila winawaldas na parang wala ng bukas. Sana i-value nila ung pera as if that would be their last. Pwede naman sigurong palaguin ang perang minsan ng naibigay sa kanila diba. Siguro daang libo na un kung pagsasamasamahin. Madali kasing isipin na “Pwede namang humingi ulit” o kaya naman “Mayaman naman sila, pwede naman akong humingi ng paulit ulit”. Pero tama na ang minsan. Tama na. At inuulit ko, hindi kami mayaman (ineemphasize ko lang just in case my mangutang sakin.. hahaha).

Bato bato sa langit ang tamaan wag magagalit!

Kaya dun sa mga mahilig umutang jan or humingi ng pera.. tsk tsk.. it’s not yet too late para magbayad ng utang at magipon ipon.. Simulan na ngayon!